Traveling alone: tips for those who crave company

Whether by necessity or choice, a quarter of Americans take at least one vacation by themselves each year. Some solo travelers are single. Some have partners who dislike travel or have different interests or can't get away. Some just crave freedom.

But all face the same question: What's the best trip for the person traveling alone?

"The key is to know yourself," said Seattle-based Beth Whitman, author of a guide for women traveling alone and founder of WanderlustandLipstick.com, a website devoted to advice and tours for women on the go.

"There are times when you just need to get away, to recuperate. And then there are times when you want to be with a group," she said. "If you just had a breakup, you don't want to run off to Paris because everyone is kissing."

But unless you're a misanthrope, you'll probably want to socialize a bit. With that in mind, here are some vacation suggestions for solos.

Special-interest tours

Whether it's a cooking class in France, a camping trip in the Rocky Mountains or a gay cruise, you'll make friends faster when you have common interests and inclinations.

These days, you'll find group tours for seemingly every niche. A good travel agent can point you to the right one.

To see what's out there, check the United States Tour Operators Association (www.ustoa.com), where you can call up operators by interest and trip type. The National Tour Association also offers a search at www.ntaonline.com/livelife. But beware of the single supplement, an often-hefty surcharge for solo travelers.

Another good source can be nonprofit groups and clubs that organize trips for members.

Volunteer vacations

Do good, see new places and meet other humanitarians.

About two-thirds of the volunteers with Georgia-based Habitat for Humanity International (www.habitat.org) sign up solo, said David Minich, its director of global volunteer engagement. The nonprofit, ecumenical Christian ministry builds affordable housing around the world.

Most Habitat trips, which cost about $100 to $150 a person a day, plus airfare, are priced for double occupancy, but trip leaders can match you with a roommate, Minich said. You usually work five days a week, with weekends free.

The many online sources for volunteer vacations include VolunteerMatch.org and GlobalVolunteers.org.

Bed-and-breakfast inns

Handy for socializing and getting travel tips.

"You're often forced to chat with one another because you're sitting around the same breakfast table," Whitman said. "You meet the proprietors and get the inside scoop on what's in the area."

Hostels

These budget lodgings, known for dorm-type accommodations, are not just for young people. You typically pay per-person rates (except for private rooms, which many hostels also offer), and you can meet travelers from around the globe.

Hostel life isn't for everyone. You'll likely share a bath whose cleanliness depends on fellow guests. Some hostels aren't in the best or most convenient part of town.

Whitman thinks hostel folks are friendlier and that "the higher-end the hotel, the fewer people you're going to meet." The nonprofit Hostelling International (www.hihostels.com), the best-known name in this field, lists thousands of places in scores of countries.

Rail trips

The beauty here is that you can keep to yourself, reading or staring at the scenery for hours, or socialize in a view car or dining car. Fares often match or beat airfares.

But Amtrak sleeping accommodations, priced per room, are not for the budget-minded; they can cost hundreds a night. I prefer day trips such as Amtrak's Coast Starlight, which departs Los Angeles in the morning and arrives in San Francisco (after a short bus connection) at night.

Road Scholar tours

Road Scholar, formerly known as Elderhostel, changed its name in June but not its mission: learning vacations aimed at the 50-and-older set. Each year, it sends more than 100,000 travelers to more than 90 countries.

Activities can be as diverse as a historic walking tour of Boston, a lecture in Morocco on Islam or a visit to Gandhi's home in India. Info: www.roadscholar.org.

Small towns

I find big cities exciting, but small places are often friendlier.

"In a city, people don't have the time and interest in meeting strangers," Whitman, the travel guide author, said.

"In a small village, people are going to come to you because you're going to stand out and be interesting. The pace of life is slower."

On a Paris street, the French may stare past you with Gallic indifference. In a village, they may invite you to see their wine cellars.