A reasonable guide to being a bridesmaid

Bridesmaids are not stand-in wedding planners or coordinators, contrary to what many do-it-yourself wedding instruction books say. Here's what bridesmaids should expect to take on when they agree to be in the wedding:

1. Purchase of dress, alterations, undergarments, accessories and, if specified ahead of time, pay for hair and makeup appointments.

2. Travel expenses.

3. Lodging expenses. Generally, though, if a bridesmaid has to travel, the bride is expected to at least work with a hotel to negotiate a group rate.

4. Attendance at one shower, the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner.

5. Increasingly, being a bridesmaid also includes a spa day or a weekend getaway for the women in the wedding party. Ask the bride if she's planning either one of these activities and if so, how much of the cost you'll be expected to bear.

— Fort Worth Star-Telegram

What's it going to cost me?

The cost of being a bridesmaid:

Dress: $140

Alterations: $75

Shoes: $25-and-up

Strapless bra: $40

Hair, nails, makeup: $150 including tips

Travel: $50-$300 gas, plane tickets

Gifts: $400 shower, wedding, bachelorette

Bachelorette party: $75

Accommodations: $150

Total: $1,105-$1,355

Sources: www.theknot.com, American Wedding Survey